Children do not need a perfect divorce. They need to feel safe, loved and free to love both parents.
Divorce is a loss for the whole family. What harms children most is not the separation itself, but being caught in ongoing conflict between the adults they love. This guide helps you protect them from that, while looking after yourself too.
Inside the guide
- Children at every age: what you might see, and what helps, from under-fives to teenagers
- Seven emotional states children may move through, and how to support each
- Telling your children: a checklist, what to say, and a planning page
- Keeping them out of the middle, and calm co-parenting
- Looking after yourself, and finding yourself again
- The practical side in England and Wales, including no-fault divorce and mediation, with trusted organisations
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By Dr Chloe Paidoussis-Mitchell, Chartered Counselling Psychologist (DCPsych, CPsychol, AFBPsS), founder of The Grief Clinic London and author of The Loss Prescription (HarperCollins). This guide is an educational resource and is not a substitute for individual psychological care. If you are in crisis, call Samaritans free on 116 123, or 999 in an emergency.